Whatever your preference, you could be just a swipe away from romantic bliss.And hey, if it's good enough for Khloe Kardashian, it should be good enough for you.No matter how many times I explained that yes, people use Tinder to go on real dates, and no, online dating doesn’t make me a pathetic loser, a lot of my married and attached friends just didn’t really get it. More importantly, I realized I don’t need to feel embarrassed or weird about meeting an awesome guy on Tinder.The realization came while we were out to dinner with two other couples.As it turned out, the guided tour was fascinating and I was touched that he’d put so much time into our evening together. “You can leave now.”And how about the guy who answered his mobile a minute into our date and then had a twenty minute call. I was walking home by the time he text me to ask where I was. Okay I have another date tonight but he’s 22 so he’s an unproven idiot. But young lads do have a habit of constantly referring to my age. I only wish he’d made me feel like a date rather than a tourist. Or the bloke who’d got so nervous before our date he’d drunk half a bottle of neat whisky in his flat and fell over at the bar. Researchers said one of the most surprising findings was that young adults and people in their late 50s/early 60s showed the greatest growth, as both groups have historically not been active online daters.
The conversation turned from “So, how’d you guys meet? I know it’s not reasonable to think I’ll always be surrounded by online dating success stories, but I’m willing to bet that there’s always someone in the room who’s dabbled in the world of swiping right and left. I used it to meet a guy I’m wild about, and that counts for something.Last month, Vanity Fair published an article titled “Tinder and the Dawn of the ‘Dating Apocalypse,’ ” which essentially blamed the 3-year-old app for fostering a hyper-sexualized hookup culture in which men don’t want to settle down because they have too many options at their fingertips.It tugged on every insecurity I had surrounding the cornerstone of my relationship.I’m not mad we didn’t randomly meet in a bar; I’m not mad we don’t have an “organic” offline love story that involves pumpkin spice lattes.
Tinder is a big part of my love story, and for that I won’t apologize.The most overwhelming figure is that 80 percent of Americans who have used online dating think it's a good way to meet someone—even if nearly a third think the process keeps people from settling down because of what psychologist Barry Schwartz calls "the paradox of choice" or having way too many options.