Put another way, if a woman has an array of other quality options closer to her age range, what incentives would she have to date a man who is SEVENTEEN YEARS OLDER? Before any 40 people get all hot and bothered about this – I am not judging. I do think people improve with age (my wife is nodding). She doesn’t need a guy who will be taking Viagra when she’s sexually peaking at 43..
If she feels you are totally into learning about her that is a real turn on, especially if you have a sense of humor. Just like you don’t want someone to misrepresent themselves to you, don’t misrepresent to them. She will want to meet you in a public place and allow her to make arrangements to meet, mainly in her hood. If you can’t then text her and make a plan for another time. We know at this stage about not changing the other person but accepting them the way they are. If you have children, don’t be afraid of introducing her to them.
You don’t need to tell her you’re older than your years, but you do need to act like a man. Yes, she wants you to tell her how hot she is, but she also wants to talk to you over dinner, during a walk, or lying in bed after you’ve made love.
Make no mistake — older women are looking for men, not boys. Nothing is more attractive to her than a young guy who can fill her needs as a man and in the sack. Part of the turn-on of an older woman is her intellect and accomplishments.
All of this makes dating more and more complex as we get older. Still, most of them fail miserably, for the exact same reasons that I think Penelope is suggesting.
It’s a lot easier for a man to take out a carefree, responsibility free, baggage free, wrinkle free 28-year-old, which is why so many men try to go in that direction. Men want much younger women, but rarely do much younger women want older men.
But that is your good fortune and why you have the best chance to seduce a hot older women, especially if you follow these simple tips.